Can You Save Your Marriage?

Is it possible to save your marriage? Let me begin by saying that with God, nothing is impossible (Luke 1:37). Even if you are already separated or if your spouse has committed adultery, restoration of your marriage is possible.

Why Would You Want To
Save Your Marriage?

1. God created marriage and joined you two together. The Bible advises that what God has joined, men should not separate (Mark 10:9). Take some time to understand what is said about marriage and divorce in the Bible

2. There will be hurt and emotional pain either way. If you divorce or if you decide to work through the issues, neither option will be devoid of difficulty. If you work through the issues though, you could experience the restoration of your marriage.

3. If you divorce, the combined income will go towards supporting two separate households instead of one. With reduced financial means, comes a change in lifestyle, increased stress and possibly financial difficulties and hardship.

4. You will be left with half of all you own. Not that you should stay married because you like your stuff. You may find yourself setting up a home all over again from scratch. In addition to setting up house, you may also have to adjust to a new community, place of work, church family, school (if there are children) and friends.

5. The financial burden of legal fees.

6. The likely breakdown of relationships with your spouse’s side of the family and half of your support system. While you may be able to reconcile with that side of the family (be amicable), fully restoring the bonds that existed before does not always happen. If you have children, your relationship with one half of your children’s extended family - grandparents, cousins, aunts and uncles could be strained or destroyed altogether.

If you have children:

1. You will lose time with your children and grandchildren.

2. Your children will lose the example of a stable loving relationship.

3. Your kids will also experience a lot of emotional turmoil and have to deal with many adjustments.

I do not advocate staying in a combative, volatile situation just for the children. I do however, suggest that one good reason to do everything within your means to try to save your marriage, is for the sake of the children.

Okay, so you thought about it and want to save your marriage. Where do you start?

Reconciliation – Because God is the only who can heal the hurts and fix your broken relationship, you must begin with reconciling with God. From there, you will be able to reconcile with yourself and others.

Communication – The lines of communication need to be opened between you and your estranged spouse. Nothing can be resolved until you learn to, not just speak in a way that your spouse understands, but also to listen.

Get support and counseling Never underestimate the strength that comes from praying with accountability partners or getting help from support groups. God said that whenever two or more get together in His name, he is there with them (Matthew 18:20).

Restoration of the Relationship – Some things you can do to facilitate restoration of your marriage relationship are: confession, forgiveness, repentance, commitment and rebuilding trust.

Struggling to Save Your Marriage?

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