Nicole Psenica's (Boldog) Betrayal
The most difficult part of our current separation and upcoming divorce has been the betrayal and lies that my wife has perpetuated.
Yesterday I was talking to my Ex-Wife from my 1st marriage inquiring about my son who was sick. During that conversation she relayed to me what Nicole had told her the day after she left in August 2013. She stated that Nicole had told her that I emotionally abused her for the entire 7 years of our marriage. It was just another slap in the face and attack on my honor & integrity. I struggle to understand how this woman that I ALWAYS treated like a princess could say these hurtful things about me.
Soon after she left I found out from my 2 son’s from my first marriage that Nicole had been telling them that I was yelling at her all of the time. When they questioned her as they had never witnessed it they were told that it happened on the weekend they were with their other parents. As we talked through that topic, I learned that Nicole had been encouraging them to lie to me about a number of other things as well. They stated that this confused them because when together Nicole and I ALWAYS stressed integrity and truth to all our boys. I shudder to think what she has told to my two step sons whom I am unable to see or speak to.
I know that I need to just shrug off these type of lies but they are incredibly hurtful as well as confusing to me. What happened to the woman I married? That woman was beautiful, humble, merciful, and loving to everyone. Nicole was dedicated to the Lord as well as our family. For the last three years as I have implored her to work with me on our marriage she insisted that we had the best marriage around and that the problems existed solely in my mind. While telling me that she was going behind my back telling the most unbelievable stories about me to others.
It is my goal through this separation and eventual divorce to remain loving, merciful, and honorable regardless of what Nicole does. I have to say that it is a struggle to survive in that environment of betrayals and lies.
I was encouraged to complete the "FireProof" movie love dare. Rather than actually do each item I was encouraged to write out how I would complete that if my wife was still with me. Based on what that small group leader told me that would help soften my heart towards Nicole. I am planning on starting that this week to give it a try.