I recently separated from my wife. It was the worst advice I have ever taken from family and friends. It is heartbreaking and very emotional and there are kids involved.
I want to reconcile but there is no communication as of now.
My husband stopped speaking to me in 2007. He moved out in 2009 after trying to assault our daughter and hitting me. That was new behavior!
The kids and I made a run for the boarder for safety. His mother told him that he should move out. He wanted to anyway and he did.
Home is a better place to be, but he will not talk to me. He thinks that he needs to yell at me, so we do not communicate. It is stupid that attorneys are making so much money because he chooses to act this way.
I have asked myself about my contributions, but I refuse to be yelled at and disrespected verbally anymore. I am praying for this to end peacefully.
I am sorry that my children have to deal with this. My daughter will have nothing to do with him and he is keeping me in court for custody and visitation. The children are 16 and 14. Go figure. Rather than talk to them he has attorneys telling them what they are going to do and they are fighting it.
I live with the constant threat of being jailed for contempt. I have never expressed my opinion because they will not listen so they have not had cause to charge me.
I am just so sad for the children. My son went from being and "A" student to and "F" and may not get the graduate with his 8th grade class. Do Dad and the attorneys care? NO.
I cry and pray a lot for them. God always works it out and I have to thank Him for that. I just want this over with so that we can live again. By the way the "I-can't-wait-until-he-is-my-x" does not pay child support but is suing for the world. He showed up in court saying that he did not have any money, yet he has his own business and pays everybody else.
I do not agree with my daughter having nothing to do with him, but she said that she is at peace and feels much better. She had told me before he left that she had no happy memories of him because he has always been unkind to her.
I just pray for peace.
Apr 04, 2011 Rating
Persevere by: Kelly
You have not given any details as to why your friends and family would advise you to leave. I do however understand how that could happen. Friends and family tend to want to protect those they love.
I have a friend whose husband treats her poorly and their marriage is on very shaky ground. My instinct is to tell her to leave because I want to protect her from the pain the relationship is causing and because I want her to be happy. However, I resist because it really needs to be her decision.
We all do things we regret whether on the advise of others of our own decisions. However, if you do want to make every effort to restore the marriage, I encourage you to persevere - do not give up.
You have not indicated how long you have been separated only that there is currently no communication. The first step then, is to establish communication. I can tell you that a sincere, heartfelt apology can go a long way to opening the lines of communication.
I will be praying for you that you are able to establish healthy communication so you can reconcile.
