Confess”If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” 1 John 1:9 On your road to
divorce recovery,
one of the things that helps put the past behind you and prepare you for the future is confession. When you hang on to and hide your sin, it not only hinders your relationship with God but it also holds you in bondage to guilt, fear and shame. Guilt is a heavy load to carry just like unforgiveness is. It says in 1 John that if you confess your sin, God
forgives.
It requires you acknowledging where and how you were disobedient to God’s will. Even if you were the one who was trying to hold the
marriage
together, you are still responsible for your actions and any contribution you knowingly or unknowingly made to the relationship breakdown. You may even need to own up to one or more of the
causes of divorce.
The problem is, not only did the enemy convince you to sin in the first place, he may now be trying to convince you that it is better to keep it hidden. Maybe you are thinking “If people really knew how selfish, unforgiving, bitter, angry or whatever you were, they would never speak to you again.” Well, maybe that is true in some cases. But, you might be surprised how free you feel when you humble yourself to both God and someone else. The stranglehold of shame and the fear of being exposed disappears. Trying to hide your guilt and cover up your sin is useless anyway. God already knows everything. Who does it hurt then? Well, it hurts you because you give the enemy the power to hold a sin against you that the blood of Jesus was already shed to forgive. It also hinders your fellowship with God because you refuse to admit where you have intentionally or unintentionally sinned. To whom do you confess? Firstly, you need to come clean to God even though he already knows what you have done, said and thought. He wants you to come to him and admit your shortcomings and accept his
forgiveness.
James 5:16 says “Therefore confess your sins to each other and
pray
for each other so that you may be
healed.
The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective. “ Secondly, you need to open your heart to others. Shouting all your sins from a soap box in the street might be extreme. Sharing all the colorful names you called your ex-spouse with your children is totally uncalled for. But, confiding your sins to a trusted confident who will pray for you and still
love
and accept you after you have done so, will release you from the power of guilt, fear and shame. Christian Divorce Support Online offers you a safe place to unload to other Christians whatever it is that is weighing on your heart without the fear of condemnation. No one is perfect. We all fall short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23). You can even divulge your sin anonymously if you wish. The power comes not in others knowing who you are and what you have done but in you knowing that others still care and God still loves you regardless of what you have done. Have Something Weighing on Your Heart You Want to Confess?James 5:16 says to confess your sins to each other. Free yourself from the shame, guilt and fear of your sin and give others the opportunity to stand in prayer with you. What Other Visitors Have SaidClick below to see contributions from other visitors to this page...
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